Oksana’s Family

Oksana’s husband perished on May 9, 2015, defending his Motherland. I don’t even know what to write, the new Motherland of LPR, or the old one, but which one? He was a militiaman and, like many, he wen toff to defend his home in Lugansk in ’14.
He left behind a wife with two children, Masha and Kolya. Here they are, on the first photo.
Oksana went through hell and one can’t even say she’s out of it yet. Only the children are keeping her afloat. She did not really live for several years after the death, she loved her husband so much. She closed inwardly but, thank God, did not lose her mind. We have helped many children whose mothers went insane due to what they went through, and who now live with their grandmothers. Kolya and Masha live with their mom and thank God everyone is alive and well.
But they are struggling.
In the fall I wrote about how all of their appliances burned down. Thanks to the money we collected we were able to not only help the family with food and medications, but even bought them a washing machine. Oksana never asked anything of us. She is very modest and does not complain. Many thanks to caring people who volunteered to help in this difficult situation.
You know, I am often offended by people who leave comments stating they also fare poorly but “they are not takers.” I’ll say this: none of these people is a “taker”. What is more–one must ask. This is normal and correct in a difficult situation. Nobody has written a comment “Dunya, please help me, I’m barely surviving.” No, these comments are simple insults directed at me and at those whom we help. I always feel bitter when I read them. I would like there to be as few people as possible in such situations. But I would also want people not to envy others and were instead able to be happy for them.
Interestingly, often people we help turn down our aid. They may have an empty refrigerator, but they’ll say “someone needs it more”. Be merciful and don’t judge! Be able to forgive, not envy, and give. Anyone can find themselves in a tight spot, anyone at all, and this war has taught me that. Don’t judge and don’t think that if you are doing well, it’s because you are doing something rights. Sometime these are people who are at odds with logic. Don’t overestimate it, it will get ahead of you and smack you on the nose.

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News from Oksana!

Friends, we have wonderful news from Oksana!!!
I wrote about the woman in late August. It was titled “It didn’t burn because it was empty”, and described how difficult it was for Oksana and her two kids in Lugansk.
She became a widow–her husband joined the militia almost immediately at the beginning and died in ’15–a bullet wound to the head.
The strange name of that post was due to the fridge. There was a short circuit or something like that and all the electrical appliances burned out, down to mobile phones that were being recharged.
Now she’s really struggling.
She has a disability and serious headaches. The benefits due to the loss of a breadwinner in LPR are miserly.
Many people wrote me who all wanted to help Oksana.
Here I want to say, big thanks to you all! Thank you for being there, for your compassion and caring. We were all in shock)
And you can imagine Oksana’s shock!
We were able to collect a lot of money. After talking to her, we bought her a washing machine!!!! That’s how things are. Please look at the kids, at how they are smiling.
Because the mom is smiling, too)
Things are on the mend.
Mom’s hands and back will be able to rest)

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It didn’t burn because it’s empty

We didn’t have contact with Oksana since last fall.
I don’t know if you remember her. A single mom, widow from Lugansk.
The husband joined militia back in ’14. He perished in ’15, on May 9–the Victory Day. Oksana nearly went mad from the sadness. But she has two children, for whom she lives on.
She’s disabled. Neurological issues. Constant headaches–those who’ve had them, understand. Everything is difficult. Sometimes it’s impossible to get up from bed. And the kids are still little. They have to be fed, clothed, shod, assisted with schoolwork. Since we last talked, their affairs have not gotten better, only worse. There is a sense that life is falling into a chasm. Everything’s falling apart, there is no strength to do anything.
They recently had an incident–the electricity meter blew up and burned out all the electrical equipment in the house, together with the wiring. Even the phone burned because it was being charged. Lamps blew up. Only the refrigerator survived. It didn’t burn because it was empty, and they disconnected it…

Oksana and her son Kolya.


Oksana’s husband went off to the militia almost at once, in ’14. He died on May 9, 2015. This was too much to bear for Oksana, she cut herself away from the outside world. No, she did not go insane. She feeds her kids, talks. But it’s as if she’s living in her own world, not ours. I didn’t see her, our friends went to visit. Zhenya was naturally struck taken aback when he met her. He says that it’s as if he wasn’t talking to her but to a shroud. “Quiet, monotonous, correct speech. But without emotion, empty…”

On the photo, her kids, Masha born in 2010, and Kolya, 2012.

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